We were hanging out on the living room floor, pretty chill I thought. She was trying to put a toy together and apparently it wasn’t going well.
Said those little soft lips.
I perked up a bit, but to be honest I wasn’t really surprised to hear her say it. I had said it in front of her, well, once or twice or more….
She looked at me and waited for a reaction.
And like any good Christian parent, I said, ‘Please don’t ever say that at school.’ Yup! The worst, I know.
She was still eyeing me, not sure what else to expect.
I sat there for a solid minute or two in silence, wondering what other genius things I could come up with. Recognizing that I was 100% to blame for that bleep.
But too, realizing that I personally wasn’t really scarred by that word or the fact that it came out of the mouth of my 5 year old. Clearly feeling the pressure of having raised a heathen, who God only knows, has the softest heart and loves Him so much.
At that moment though, I concluded that yes, we have other words in our vocabulary that almost always get our point across, but there was something bigger here.
I have never heard her little lips talk bad about someone. Ever.
My heart. The day that happens.
She loves people. Sees the best in everyone.
So instead of giving her the general, ‘don’t swear because it’s a sin and you’ll go to hell’ talk (hey, that’s all I was ever told); I dug a little deeper and said, ‘more important than not using that word at school, is that you don’t ever use it towards someone or against someone. When we speak to or about someone we use only gentle and kind words.’
To which I got a, ‘ya, cuz saying bad things about someone makes them feel sad.’
She gets it.
More important than waving a red flag when we hear someone bleep, is to raise a million red flags when we hear someone being torn down or talked about.
It goes beyond the ‘did you hear stories.’
We tend to write other people’s stories. We stretch them and shape them far from what they actually really are. Lame sauce. We should really just live our own stories to their fullest potential.
I may be off my rocker, but to be honest with you, I’m a lot more passionate about raising a generation that occasionally bleeps and cares deeply for each other, than raising a generation that never bleeps and tears each other down.
If all else fails, we could always teach them to live by this simple rule, ‘if you can’t say it to their face, don’t say it behind their back.’
Perhaps, seeing how children model after us in our behaviour (and apparently word usage), we could live, leading by example.
New Years resolution 2017 maybe?!
Until next time, always with love!
P.S. Yes, ideally they would neither bleep or tear each other down, but lets just start somewhere and work towards perfection?! 😉